Slaying The Comparison Dragon Will Refresh Your Confidence
Confidence, you put it on when you left the house today, right, so where did it go?
You Got This!
No worries, right? You’re rockin’ the confidence. You’ve been at this feel-good-about-myself thing for a
while now. You put your life-is-awesome attitude on this morning and you’re out the door. You got this!
until . . .
You Lost it
. . . you bump into comparison and everything starts falling apart. Suddenly you don’t feel so good. The
pit of your stomach’s churning like a burrito volcano about to erupt. But a stay home Netflix binge isn’t
going to heal it.
What happened?
Yeah, yeah, we all have it. We all rock it. We all practice our confident self-ness. We got the walk, the
talk, the chin-up attitude, um, like behind the safety of our closed doors. Then we open the front door of
our lives and start navigating our day around people who all seem, well, confident. Right? In fact, they
appear so confident that we’re beginning to lose ours just being around them.
I mean, it’s not like we’re not happy for them, especially when they start sharing their awesomeness. It’s
just that, well, we were really feeling good until we bumped into them.
Them. Comparison.
Slowly we start sabotaging ourselves, agreeing with the negative voices whispering so loud in our head
we swear others can hear it.
No worries, they can’t.
And not only that, guess what? There are a lot of people in the big ol’ universe that feel the same way you
do. And maybe you’ve heard misery loves company, but really, we don’t want you enrolling in a lifetime
membership at the Poor Me Club.
So, how do you get your confidence back? And make sure it stays? And gets stronger?
You Can Get It Back
Being really clear on who you are, what you want and how to achieve it will help you feel more
confident. And when you feel more confident you have less of a tendency to compare yourself to others –
in life, online or on TV.
That may sound like a ridiculous statement. Of course you know who you are and what you want. And
you’re out there every day participating at making it happen. Yet if things aren’t going the way you hoped
then there’s a good chance that your confidence shifted and you’re comparing yourself to others and it’s
keeping you from success.
When things aren’t going well and you’re having a conversation with yourself suggesting that everyone
else has better ideas, better jobs, better looks, clothes, cars, boyfriends, girlfriends, friends, and the list
goes on, take it as a cue that perhaps you need to look at where you might need to get clear on things.
You’re Supposed to Feel Inadequate
Believe it or not, the reason you feel inadequate to someone else is because you are supposed to feel
inadequate that you’re not experiencing or succeeding at or have what they have. You are not them. You
were meant to succeed, have and experience other things. Mute the inner critic. Slay the comparison
dragon. Refresh your inner voice of confidence. Get clear, crystal clear, on who you are, what you want
and how to begin navigating a route to get there, and you will become so busy pursuing that potential that comparing yourself to others won’t be an option.
Focus on being all that you were created to be and you will experience passion, purpose, pleasure and
success.
You got this!