3 Reasons Why Trying to be Better Than Everyone Else Has a Guaranteed 100% Failure Rate (Opinion by a Confidence Coach)

The Question crossed my path: “How Can I Be Better Than Everyone Else?”

I spend an entire day on this – what I call the “Everybody Else Syndrome” – during my Clearly Confident Workshop. Here’s a SUPER abridged version of the concept.

Reason #1 – The Short (but deeper) Answer Is:

There’s more to why you feel this way.

Rather than trying to be better than everyone else, why not take some time to get more deeply acquainted with who you are and the unique skill set, talents and desires you personally possess.

I’ll venture a guess you’ll probably enjoy being a better you more so than trying to be better than everyone else.

Reason #2 – The Humorous Answer Is:

You can’t.

Ever.

There’s too many of them and they multiply daily.

There is a guaranteed 100% failure rate trying to be better than everyone else.

Reason # 3 – The Long Answer Is:

The moment you stop trying to be better than everyone else is the moment you will be better than everyone else.

“Everyone Else” is trying to disprove, one-up, outdo everyone else. Time, effort and often money, is wasted on the pursuit.

The result?

• • • Failure (not accomplishing becoming better than everyone else)
    • Success (becoming better than everyone else)
    • Emptiness (not experiencing the feelings you thought you would after becoming better than [your version of] everyone else)

To expand a little on “The Humorous Answer” above:

There’s too many everyones to be better than. Take a look at the world around you. There’s a lot of people out there.

Ask Yourself:

• • • Who is “Everyone Else”?
    • Why do I feel I need to be better than them?
    • How could I possibly expect to be better than them – there’s too many.
    • Could being “better than everyone else” really mean being my best?

There’s usually an underlying reason why you seek to be better than everyone else. As I initially mentioned, I refer to this as the Everybody Else Syndrome in my coaching workshop and spend an entire day on it. This is a common struggle, one that will hold you back in all you do, but also one that can be overcome.

Remember, though . . .

This Ain’t No Dress Rehearsal

You have one life to live.

You have no idea when your delete button will be tapped – ending your run here on earth.

Don’t spend your days trying to accomplish the impossible fete of being better than everyone else.

Be you. You’re completely qualified for the job.

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